I love preaching on this passage. That might sound a little strange, given the amount of ill feeling it generates in some parts of the church, but that’s actually why I love preaching on it. There are some passages of Scripture that have gotten jammed up over the years in interpretations that don’t actually make sense—Jim Eisenbraun pointed me to another one this year, in Job 42—and it’s a joy and delight to be able to come along and say, “You keep using that passage. I do not think it means what you think it means.” (Gotta keep the Princess Bride references going here.) There are interpretations of Scripture which ought to be inconceivable that are widely assumed to be obviously true, and they need to be set right.
That’s what we’re dealing with in Ephesians 5. It’s a widely-misused passage which illustrates two common pathologies of biblical interpretation. One is the mindset which reads the Bible as an instruction manual from which we are to extract “biblical principles” to follow in our lives. With that approach, the instant the brain sees the word “wives,” the mental guillotine drops and everything that follows is cut completely out of its context. It’s as if Paul said, “OK, I’m done talking about all this grace and unity stuff; now I’m going to sit down and write you a rulebook on ‘how marriage is supposed to work.’” That’s how it’s frequently read, as if it were a marriage manual that got mixed up with the letter and published by mistake.
If we’re going to take this passage seriously as Scripture, we can’t do that. We need to understand it in context—both the context of the letter, in which it serves a purpose in Paul’s overall argument, and its historical and cultural context. Ephesians wasn’t written five years ago by a youth pastor in Iowa, after all. We need to ask ourselves how the Ephesians would have heard this passage, which was written to address their questions, concerns, and culture, not ours. When we ignore the context of a passage, we almost always produce interpretations which serve the agenda of the interpreter rather than challenging it. In this case, that has historically meant two profound errors: first, the idea of absolute unilateral submission of wives to husbands—the husband is supposed to be the lord of the house; and second, a focus on wives rather than husbands despite the fact that Paul addresses eight verses to husbands and only three to wives.